Hi there!
I had a stage 1a melanoma removed in March 2018 when my second child was almost a year old. I was very very shaken by the whole thing, and I too was dealing with my FIL having a stage 4 cancer diagnosis.
My best advice is to keep up with your dermatologist checkups and be vigilant but not scared about monitoring your skin for changes. In the past 4 1/2 years I have had other moles removed which turned out benign, and this summer I just had an Actinic keratosis removed on my leg.
Best of luck to you and prayers for your mom!
