Stage 4 is hard to believe sometimes

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    Lisa13
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      It's been almost a year since I was diagnosed with Stage 4. I had great success with ipi on my lung mets and while on ipi, developed 2 brain tumours which were gamma knifed 6 weeks ago.

      It's been almost a year since I was diagnosed with Stage 4. I had great success with ipi on my lung mets and while on ipi, developed 2 brain tumours which were gamma knifed 6 weeks ago.

      Tomorrow, we're hosting a holiday open house, I've been dancing with my 2 year old, running around the house cleaning, preparing and decorating for the holidays, laughing and enjoying life like I don't have cancer.. It's hard to believe that I have Stage 4 as I've never had a symptom or side effect since being diagnosed.   I know we never know what lays ahead in our future, but I do know I can't let this melanoma run my life.  When my friends and family I havn't seen for awhile see me, they tell me I look unbelievably amazing. My hairdresser just told me my hair was as healthy as he's ever seen it!  Attitude means alot in this battle. I think of someone like Lance Armstrong who had lung and brain mets and is still hear 10 years later without the cancer returning. Yes, he had a different cancer – but he had an advanced state of cancer and 2 brain mets which he knew was a bad prognosis.   That guys attitude and willing to try and beat the odds is motivation for me.

      I have scans at the end of January which I'll be nervous about, but I keep remaining positive that this could stay away for a long time.  As for brain mets, some people on ipi got them during treatment, but havn't had another one come back for at least a year.  This is what I hope for me as well. 

      Happy Holidays everyone.   I hope the New Year is filled with hope, new treatments, better stats, and continued good news for those who are responding to ttheir reatment. 

      Lisa

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        hope4cure1
        Participant

          Lisa……you are living to the max!  That is exactly what we are meant to do.  You've already beat the odds.  Get used to that success because with your energy and determination, nothing can stop you.  Look at the chances of having your powerful attitude……those chances are slim too, and you've blown them out of your way.  Keep dancing with that little angel of yours, enjoy the season to the fullest, and meet me here next year at this time so we can raise another toast!!!

          I wish you the happiest of holidays!!!!!

          Hope

          hope4cure1
          Participant

            Lisa……you are living to the max!  That is exactly what we are meant to do.  You've already beat the odds.  Get used to that success because with your energy and determination, nothing can stop you.  Look at the chances of having your powerful attitude……those chances are slim too, and you've blown them out of your way.  Keep dancing with that little angel of yours, enjoy the season to the fullest, and meet me here next year at this time so we can raise another toast!!!

            I wish you the happiest of holidays!!!!!

            Hope

            hope4cure1
            Participant

              Lisa……you are living to the max!  That is exactly what we are meant to do.  You've already beat the odds.  Get used to that success because with your energy and determination, nothing can stop you.  Look at the chances of having your powerful attitude……those chances are slim too, and you've blown them out of your way.  Keep dancing with that little angel of yours, enjoy the season to the fullest, and meet me here next year at this time so we can raise another toast!!!

              I wish you the happiest of holidays!!!!!

              Hope

              Barb123
              Participant

                You have a good attitude towards life.  Keep it up..

                Barb123
                Participant

                  You have a good attitude towards life.  Keep it up..

                  Barb123
                  Participant

                    You have a good attitude towards life.  Keep it up..

                    fdess056
                    Participant

                      Happy Holidays to you, too, Lisa.  I'm fairly new to this….diagnosed stage 4 in August , starting IPI by end of month.  I have followed some of your posts and you have been an inspiration to me.  I hope that 2 year old of yours has half the energy you do!  Keep up the good fight, keep on dancing and keep those posts coming.

                      Frank D

                      fdess056
                      Participant

                        Happy Holidays to you, too, Lisa.  I'm fairly new to this….diagnosed stage 4 in August , starting IPI by end of month.  I have followed some of your posts and you have been an inspiration to me.  I hope that 2 year old of yours has half the energy you do!  Keep up the good fight, keep on dancing and keep those posts coming.

                        Frank D

                        fdess056
                        Participant

                          Happy Holidays to you, too, Lisa.  I'm fairly new to this….diagnosed stage 4 in August , starting IPI by end of month.  I have followed some of your posts and you have been an inspiration to me.  I hope that 2 year old of yours has half the energy you do!  Keep up the good fight, keep on dancing and keep those posts coming.

                          Frank D

                          FormerCaregiver
                          Participant

                            Lisa, I think that you are doing really well. Until recently, doctors wouldn't have expected too many stage 4 patients to be in good health a year after initial diagnosis. Your positive attitude has certainly helped you to keep melanoma under control.

                            I think that you have the right way of dealing with melanoma. By being vigilant, decisive and proactive, you have had problems medically evaluated and then have had prompt treatment. 

                            Wishing you and your family a truly happy Christmas and New Year.

                            Frank from Australia

                            FormerCaregiver
                            Participant

                              Lisa, I think that you are doing really well. Until recently, doctors wouldn't have expected too many stage 4 patients to be in good health a year after initial diagnosis. Your positive attitude has certainly helped you to keep melanoma under control.

                              I think that you have the right way of dealing with melanoma. By being vigilant, decisive and proactive, you have had problems medically evaluated and then have had prompt treatment. 

                              Wishing you and your family a truly happy Christmas and New Year.

                              Frank from Australia

                              FormerCaregiver
                              Participant

                                Lisa, I think that you are doing really well. Until recently, doctors wouldn't have expected too many stage 4 patients to be in good health a year after initial diagnosis. Your positive attitude has certainly helped you to keep melanoma under control.

                                I think that you have the right way of dealing with melanoma. By being vigilant, decisive and proactive, you have had problems medically evaluated and then have had prompt treatment. 

                                Wishing you and your family a truly happy Christmas and New Year.

                                Frank from Australia

                                Charlie S
                                Participant

                                  More than once I have stood before an oncologist who saw me after reviewing my medical files, scans and all that; and they were slack jawed as I bee-bopped into the exam room.

                                    It was a difficult concept for them to see somebody who looked sooooooooooooooo much like shit on paper to be well,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,not only alive but living.

                                  Crap, one day I got out from doing IL-2 at 3 and at 9 I hit a blues bar and partied my ass off.

                                  Ya know what?  Melanoma just HATES that.

                                  I like it that way and I think you do to !

                                  (doesn't do much for people who say,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,she has cancer??????????"

                                  Ha.

                                  Keep going Lisa.

                                  Cheers,

                                  Charlie S

                                  Charlie S
                                  Participant

                                    More than once I have stood before an oncologist who saw me after reviewing my medical files, scans and all that; and they were slack jawed as I bee-bopped into the exam room.

                                      It was a difficult concept for them to see somebody who looked sooooooooooooooo much like shit on paper to be well,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,not only alive but living.

                                    Crap, one day I got out from doing IL-2 at 3 and at 9 I hit a blues bar and partied my ass off.

                                    Ya know what?  Melanoma just HATES that.

                                    I like it that way and I think you do to !

                                    (doesn't do much for people who say,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,she has cancer??????????"

                                    Ha.

                                    Keep going Lisa.

                                    Cheers,

                                    Charlie S

                                      Vermont_Donna
                                      Participant

                                        Hi Lisa,

                                        What a wonderful attitude! Of course you just have to keep celebrating life every day! We who have cancer have a new appreciation for life; it really puts things in pespective.

                                        I get the same comments you do and what Charlie said…..people cant believe I look so good, that I am not bald and laying in my bed as I have cancer. No I am living and working and loving each day!

                                        Happy Holidays Lisa!

                                        Love Vermont_Donna, stage 3a, NED

                                        Vermont_Donna
                                        Participant

                                          Hi Lisa,

                                          What a wonderful attitude! Of course you just have to keep celebrating life every day! We who have cancer have a new appreciation for life; it really puts things in pespective.

                                          I get the same comments you do and what Charlie said…..people cant believe I look so good, that I am not bald and laying in my bed as I have cancer. No I am living and working and loving each day!

                                          Happy Holidays Lisa!

                                          Love Vermont_Donna, stage 3a, NED

                                          Vermont_Donna
                                          Participant

                                            Hi Lisa,

                                            What a wonderful attitude! Of course you just have to keep celebrating life every day! We who have cancer have a new appreciation for life; it really puts things in pespective.

                                            I get the same comments you do and what Charlie said…..people cant believe I look so good, that I am not bald and laying in my bed as I have cancer. No I am living and working and loving each day!

                                            Happy Holidays Lisa!

                                            Love Vermont_Donna, stage 3a, NED

                                          Charlie S
                                          Participant

                                            More than once I have stood before an oncologist who saw me after reviewing my medical files, scans and all that; and they were slack jawed as I bee-bopped into the exam room.

                                              It was a difficult concept for them to see somebody who looked sooooooooooooooo much like shit on paper to be well,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,not only alive but living.

                                            Crap, one day I got out from doing IL-2 at 3 and at 9 I hit a blues bar and partied my ass off.

                                            Ya know what?  Melanoma just HATES that.

                                            I like it that way and I think you do to !

                                            (doesn't do much for people who say,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,she has cancer??????????"

                                            Ha.

                                            Keep going Lisa.

                                            Cheers,

                                            Charlie S

                                            LynnLuc
                                            Participant

                                              Praying your scans come out clear! I am also thankful for being NED. To think I was told in June 2009 I had 6-9 months to live. I was so devastated. After falling apart and some soul searching and a lot of prayer I decided to reject the prognosis and took control of what my treatment was going to be….March 26 is 2 years NED. I am thankful and Blessed!

                                              LynnLuc
                                              Participant

                                                Praying your scans come out clear! I am also thankful for being NED. To think I was told in June 2009 I had 6-9 months to live. I was so devastated. After falling apart and some soul searching and a lot of prayer I decided to reject the prognosis and took control of what my treatment was going to be….March 26 is 2 years NED. I am thankful and Blessed!

                                                LynnLuc
                                                Participant

                                                  Praying your scans come out clear! I am also thankful for being NED. To think I was told in June 2009 I had 6-9 months to live. I was so devastated. After falling apart and some soul searching and a lot of prayer I decided to reject the prognosis and took control of what my treatment was going to be….March 26 is 2 years NED. I am thankful and Blessed!

                                                  MichaelFL
                                                  Participant

                                                    Like I always said….keep pushing forward-and move on-and you did. You never give up.

                                                    Happy Holidays to you too. You deserve it.

                                                    Michael

                                                    MichaelFL
                                                    Participant

                                                      Like I always said….keep pushing forward-and move on-and you did. You never give up.

                                                      Happy Holidays to you too. You deserve it.

                                                      Michael

                                                      MichaelFL
                                                      Participant

                                                        Like I always said….keep pushing forward-and move on-and you did. You never give up.

                                                        Happy Holidays to you too. You deserve it.

                                                        Michael

                                                        Lisa13
                                                        Participant

                                                          Thanks everyone for their good wishes.  It really means alot to me and I'm happy that other people feel the same energy and positive outlook as I do.  Yeah, melanoma sucks – especially being at Stage 4, but the "stats" are going to change.  I've never been told how long I have because my Dr. wouldn't even know. I'm "healthy" right now and that's what matters right now.

                                                          Keep the attitude strong!

                                                          I'm wishing you all a wonderful holiday season.

                                                          Lisa

                                                            mclaus23
                                                            Participant
                                                              Lisa you are amazing!
                                                              Ive been trying to cheer my dad up for awhile now and I cannot wait to share your post!
                                                              I’ve been praying for you all along
                                                              I know you will continue to respond. Your attitude is just awesome
                                                              Happy holidays to you and your family!

                                                              Maggie

                                                              mclaus23
                                                              Participant
                                                                Lisa you are amazing!
                                                                Ive been trying to cheer my dad up for awhile now and I cannot wait to share your post!
                                                                I’ve been praying for you all along
                                                                I know you will continue to respond. Your attitude is just awesome
                                                                Happy holidays to you and your family!

                                                                Maggie

                                                                mclaus23
                                                                Participant
                                                                  Lisa you are amazing!
                                                                  Ive been trying to cheer my dad up for awhile now and I cannot wait to share your post!
                                                                  I’ve been praying for you all along
                                                                  I know you will continue to respond. Your attitude is just awesome
                                                                  Happy holidays to you and your family!

                                                                  Maggie

                                                                  kylez
                                                                  Participant

                                                                    That's great Lisa.

                                                                    I also feel blessed to, for example, not be in any pain at stage IV. From the outside to other people I look (I think) pretty normal/healthy. I am careful to try not to push myself too much or let other people's perceptions define my actions — I know I need to take it easy. But I agree — it's awesome to be feeling OK even with a serious diagnosis like this.

                                                                    Happy holidays!

                                                                    Kyle

                                                                    kylez
                                                                    Participant

                                                                      That's great Lisa.

                                                                      I also feel blessed to, for example, not be in any pain at stage IV. From the outside to other people I look (I think) pretty normal/healthy. I am careful to try not to push myself too much or let other people's perceptions define my actions — I know I need to take it easy. But I agree — it's awesome to be feeling OK even with a serious diagnosis like this.

                                                                      Happy holidays!

                                                                      Kyle

                                                                      kylez
                                                                      Participant

                                                                        That's great Lisa.

                                                                        I also feel blessed to, for example, not be in any pain at stage IV. From the outside to other people I look (I think) pretty normal/healthy. I am careful to try not to push myself too much or let other people's perceptions define my actions — I know I need to take it easy. But I agree — it's awesome to be feeling OK even with a serious diagnosis like this.

                                                                        Happy holidays!

                                                                        Kyle

                                                                      Lisa13
                                                                      Participant

                                                                        Thanks everyone for their good wishes.  It really means alot to me and I'm happy that other people feel the same energy and positive outlook as I do.  Yeah, melanoma sucks – especially being at Stage 4, but the "stats" are going to change.  I've never been told how long I have because my Dr. wouldn't even know. I'm "healthy" right now and that's what matters right now.

                                                                        Keep the attitude strong!

                                                                        I'm wishing you all a wonderful holiday season.

                                                                        Lisa

                                                                        Lisa13
                                                                        Participant

                                                                          Thanks everyone for their good wishes.  It really means alot to me and I'm happy that other people feel the same energy and positive outlook as I do.  Yeah, melanoma sucks – especially being at Stage 4, but the "stats" are going to change.  I've never been told how long I have because my Dr. wouldn't even know. I'm "healthy" right now and that's what matters right now.

                                                                          Keep the attitude strong!

                                                                          I'm wishing you all a wonderful holiday season.

                                                                          Lisa

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