How to get doc to listen

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    sal d
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      Skin appt this week. I have had 4 in situs in past 11 years. 58 punch biopsies. Photos twice. I have three things I want biopsied, but I know it will be a hassle. Residents dont listen. i am a nurse so…………one spot is like two tiny black spots together on my thigh. I know it is new….within a year. So I want it off. I have not been for exam in two years because I know they think Insitus are just nothing. Frustrated. Had to switch docs due to my insurance. Any suggestions on how to get these stupid three spots taken off?

      Skin appt this week. I have had 4 in situs in past 11 years. 58 punch biopsies. Photos twice. I have three things I want biopsied, but I know it will be a hassle. Residents dont listen. i am a nurse so…………one spot is like two tiny black spots together on my thigh. I know it is new….within a year. So I want it off. I have not been for exam in two years because I know they think Insitus are just nothing. Frustrated. Had to switch docs due to my insurance. Any suggestions on how to get these stupid three spots taken off?

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        Janner
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          Say the 3 lesions have changed.  If they don't go along, ask that they guarantee IN WRITING these are not melanoma.  That usually prods most docs along – fear of being sued is a powerful thing.  I hate that type of tactic, but they work for you not the other way around.  You could also ask your PCP.  My one PCP would tell me he would biopsy anything of concern I had whether or not my derm thought it an issue or not.  Fortunately, my derm has always listened to me, but it was nice knowing I had a backup plan.

          Best wishes,
          Janner

          Janner
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            Say the 3 lesions have changed.  If they don't go along, ask that they guarantee IN WRITING these are not melanoma.  That usually prods most docs along – fear of being sued is a powerful thing.  I hate that type of tactic, but they work for you not the other way around.  You could also ask your PCP.  My one PCP would tell me he would biopsy anything of concern I had whether or not my derm thought it an issue or not.  Fortunately, my derm has always listened to me, but it was nice knowing I had a backup plan.

            Best wishes,
            Janner

            Janner
            Participant

              Say the 3 lesions have changed.  If they don't go along, ask that they guarantee IN WRITING these are not melanoma.  That usually prods most docs along – fear of being sued is a powerful thing.  I hate that type of tactic, but they work for you not the other way around.  You could also ask your PCP.  My one PCP would tell me he would biopsy anything of concern I had whether or not my derm thought it an issue or not.  Fortunately, my derm has always listened to me, but it was nice knowing I had a backup plan.

              Best wishes,
              Janner

                POW
                Participant

                  Great idea, Janner. Tell the docs that the spot(s) has changed. Love it!

                  POW
                  Participant

                    Great idea, Janner. Tell the docs that the spot(s) has changed. Love it!

                    POW
                    Participant

                      Great idea, Janner. Tell the docs that the spot(s) has changed. Love it!

                      sal d
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                        Jan can I send you a picture of the spot? Need you email. I used to be on here all the time but never could figure out this new site.
                        Thanks Sally DiGia
                        sal d
                        Participant
                          Jan can I send you a picture of the spot? Need you email. I used to be on here all the time but never could figure out this new site.
                          Thanks Sally DiGia
                          sal d
                          Participant
                            Jan can I send you a picture of the spot? Need you email. I used to be on here all the time but never could figure out this new site.
                            Thanks Sally DiGia
                            Janner
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                              My email is available through this site.  Click on my name to go to my profile, then click on Contact.  You can send an email that way.  But when it comes to pictures, they don't tell me much.  You can't know just from looking if something is "bad".  I look for "ugly duckling" – different from all my other moles – and change for the worse over time.  I'll quote the derm that runs a mole mapping clinical trial at my institution.  "New and consistent with other moles is fine.  New and different from everything else is suspect".  For me, all my primaries changed for the worse over time so that is my criteria.  Single pictures probably would not have required 2/3 of my primaries be removed unless you compared them with all my other moles.  They stood out as being the ugly duckling moreso than answering the ABCDs of melanoma.

                              Best wishes,

                              Janner

                              Janner
                              Participant

                                My email is available through this site.  Click on my name to go to my profile, then click on Contact.  You can send an email that way.  But when it comes to pictures, they don't tell me much.  You can't know just from looking if something is "bad".  I look for "ugly duckling" – different from all my other moles – and change for the worse over time.  I'll quote the derm that runs a mole mapping clinical trial at my institution.  "New and consistent with other moles is fine.  New and different from everything else is suspect".  For me, all my primaries changed for the worse over time so that is my criteria.  Single pictures probably would not have required 2/3 of my primaries be removed unless you compared them with all my other moles.  They stood out as being the ugly duckling moreso than answering the ABCDs of melanoma.

                                Best wishes,

                                Janner

                                Janner
                                Participant

                                  My email is available through this site.  Click on my name to go to my profile, then click on Contact.  You can send an email that way.  But when it comes to pictures, they don't tell me much.  You can't know just from looking if something is "bad".  I look for "ugly duckling" – different from all my other moles – and change for the worse over time.  I'll quote the derm that runs a mole mapping clinical trial at my institution.  "New and consistent with other moles is fine.  New and different from everything else is suspect".  For me, all my primaries changed for the worse over time so that is my criteria.  Single pictures probably would not have required 2/3 of my primaries be removed unless you compared them with all my other moles.  They stood out as being the ugly duckling moreso than answering the ABCDs of melanoma.

                                  Best wishes,

                                  Janner

                                  sal d
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                                    Basically begged to have two spots biopsied. My skin. My insurance. My anxiety. And yes I said it just like that.
                                    sal d
                                    Participant
                                      Basically begged to have two spots biopsied. My skin. My insurance. My anxiety. And yes I said it just like that.
                                      sal d
                                      Participant
                                        Basically begged to have two spots biopsied. My skin. My insurance. My anxiety. And yes I said it just like that.
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