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    Mat
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      My wonderful wife left a copy of this article out for me.  I haven't seen a better description of my day to day mental state.  Spoiler alert–the Samuel Beckett at the end (while simple) is priceless.

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        POW
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          Wow! What an honest and insighful essay!

          My favorite part is:

          "Before my cancer was diagnosed, I knew that someday I would die, but I didn’t know when. After the diagnosis, I knew that someday I would die, but I didn’t know when… The angst of facing mortality has no remedy in probability."

          Thank you for sharing this, Mat.

           

          POW
          Participant

            Wow! What an honest and insighful essay!

            My favorite part is:

            "Before my cancer was diagnosed, I knew that someday I would die, but I didn’t know when. After the diagnosis, I knew that someday I would die, but I didn’t know when… The angst of facing mortality has no remedy in probability."

            Thank you for sharing this, Mat.

             

            POW
            Participant

              Wow! What an honest and insighful essay!

              My favorite part is:

              "Before my cancer was diagnosed, I knew that someday I would die, but I didn’t know when. After the diagnosis, I knew that someday I would die, but I didn’t know when… The angst of facing mortality has no remedy in probability."

              Thank you for sharing this, Mat.

               

                shanemcdonald99
                Participant

                  excellent !

                  thanks

                   

                  shane

                  shanemcdonald99
                  Participant

                    excellent !

                    thanks

                     

                    shane

                    shanemcdonald99
                    Participant

                      excellent !

                      thanks

                       

                      shane

                      Brendan
                      Participant

                        Thanks, Mat.

                        Beckett's quote was perfect; you are right.  Every day I read myself a similar line from Churchill that is posted on my refrigerator :

                        If you're going through hell, keep going.

                        Good luck to us all.

                         

                        Brendan
                        Participant

                          Thanks, Mat.

                          Beckett's quote was perfect; you are right.  Every day I read myself a similar line from Churchill that is posted on my refrigerator :

                          If you're going through hell, keep going.

                          Good luck to us all.

                           

                          Brendan
                          Participant

                            Thanks, Mat.

                            Beckett's quote was perfect; you are right.  Every day I read myself a similar line from Churchill that is posted on my refrigerator :

                            If you're going through hell, keep going.

                            Good luck to us all.

                             

                            tschmith
                            Participant

                              Great Essay!…wonder if I can remember this why'll I'm going through IL2?

                              tschmith
                              Participant

                                Great Essay!…wonder if I can remember this why'll I'm going through IL2?

                                tschmith
                                Participant

                                  Great Essay!…wonder if I can remember this why'll I'm going through IL2?

                                  JerryfromFauq
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                                    You WILL.   !

                                    JerryfromFauq
                                    Participant

                                      You WILL.   !

                                      JerryfromFauq
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                                        You WILL.   !

                                      BrianP
                                      Participant

                                        Great Mat. Thanks to you and your wonderful wife for finding and posting it. "I'll go on."

                                        Brian

                                        BrianP
                                        Participant

                                          Great Mat. Thanks to you and your wonderful wife for finding and posting it. "I'll go on."

                                          Brian

                                          BrianP
                                          Participant

                                            Great Mat. Thanks to you and your wonderful wife for finding and posting it. "I'll go on."

                                            Brian

                                            Socks
                                            Participant

                                              Thank you for sharing this. I may not be a neurosurgeon (or any sort of doctor), but I'm almost 36, and while I figured I'd get some sort of cancer someday, given my genetic background, I just didn't expect it this soon. Reading this was very helpful. πŸ™‚ Thank you again.

                                              Socks
                                              Participant

                                                Thank you for sharing this. I may not be a neurosurgeon (or any sort of doctor), but I'm almost 36, and while I figured I'd get some sort of cancer someday, given my genetic background, I just didn't expect it this soon. Reading this was very helpful. πŸ™‚ Thank you again.

                                                Socks
                                                Participant

                                                  Thank you for sharing this. I may not be a neurosurgeon (or any sort of doctor), but I'm almost 36, and while I figured I'd get some sort of cancer someday, given my genetic background, I just didn't expect it this soon. Reading this was very helpful. πŸ™‚ Thank you again.

                                                  Swanee
                                                  Participant

                                                    I have had the good fortune of having a hypochondriac Aunt who has been dying for as long as I've known her.  When I was diagnosed with stage IV mel and told the grim news, my first thought was of her and how she had wasted her life dying every day. I made a vow to myself, however much time I have in this earthly life, I don't want to waste a moment giving death any of my precious time, it will get it's share when the time comes.  I have spent the last 4 years living life to the fullest and engaging in anything I want to and it truly has been a remarkable time for me and my family and I think I'll go on a very long time like this!  My husband and I always try to keep our humor in tact, often reminding ourselves and others…..it's an expensive way to live!  The song by Tim McGraw states it so well "Live life like your dying" sadly, most of us don't understand this phrase until we are facing a head on collision with death.  We all have the capacity to give ourselves the gift of  hope and happiness. In the end, nobody can say with any certainty what will be, so cling to what you hope your life will be and who knows, it just might be what you hoped!

                                                    I hope all who read this takeaway renewed hope for a long and well lived life.

                                                    Swanee

                                                    p.s. My Aunt is 79 and still dying πŸ™‚ 

                                                    Swanee
                                                    Participant

                                                      I have had the good fortune of having a hypochondriac Aunt who has been dying for as long as I've known her.  When I was diagnosed with stage IV mel and told the grim news, my first thought was of her and how she had wasted her life dying every day. I made a vow to myself, however much time I have in this earthly life, I don't want to waste a moment giving death any of my precious time, it will get it's share when the time comes.  I have spent the last 4 years living life to the fullest and engaging in anything I want to and it truly has been a remarkable time for me and my family and I think I'll go on a very long time like this!  My husband and I always try to keep our humor in tact, often reminding ourselves and others…..it's an expensive way to live!  The song by Tim McGraw states it so well "Live life like your dying" sadly, most of us don't understand this phrase until we are facing a head on collision with death.  We all have the capacity to give ourselves the gift of  hope and happiness. In the end, nobody can say with any certainty what will be, so cling to what you hope your life will be and who knows, it just might be what you hoped!

                                                      I hope all who read this takeaway renewed hope for a long and well lived life.

                                                      Swanee

                                                      p.s. My Aunt is 79 and still dying πŸ™‚ 

                                                      Swanee
                                                      Participant

                                                        I have had the good fortune of having a hypochondriac Aunt who has been dying for as long as I've known her.  When I was diagnosed with stage IV mel and told the grim news, my first thought was of her and how she had wasted her life dying every day. I made a vow to myself, however much time I have in this earthly life, I don't want to waste a moment giving death any of my precious time, it will get it's share when the time comes.  I have spent the last 4 years living life to the fullest and engaging in anything I want to and it truly has been a remarkable time for me and my family and I think I'll go on a very long time like this!  My husband and I always try to keep our humor in tact, often reminding ourselves and others…..it's an expensive way to live!  The song by Tim McGraw states it so well "Live life like your dying" sadly, most of us don't understand this phrase until we are facing a head on collision with death.  We all have the capacity to give ourselves the gift of  hope and happiness. In the end, nobody can say with any certainty what will be, so cling to what you hope your life will be and who knows, it just might be what you hoped!

                                                        I hope all who read this takeaway renewed hope for a long and well lived life.

                                                        Swanee

                                                        p.s. My Aunt is 79 and still dying πŸ™‚ 

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