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- April 5, 2016 at 3:51 am
I am trying to not freak out, so I am reaching out to the people here. first a little history..
my aunt on my Dads side died at 37 of Melanoma
in 8/2014 I was diagnosed with in situ and have had 14 dysplastic moles removed
In January of this year my daughter(18) told me she had a lump in her arm pit, we watched it for a few weeks to see if it would go away, thinking maybe it was an infected sweat gland or something. It did not go away so she went to the Dr. and took antibiotics for 10 days. Still no change, it is hard, size of a quarter, does not move, and not painful unless you push hard on it. Today we went back to the Dr. And she said it is her lymph node so she wants to send her for a sonogram. I told the Dr Id like her to look at a mole on my daughters back that she has had since she was little, we have had it looked at several times over the years and no Dr. Has ever been concerned. Its been 2 years since the last time. Although I have never liked the looks of it, I have trusted the Doctors. Today as soon as this new Dr saw it she said it needs to come off and be sent for biopsy. It has all but the D of the ABCD's of melanoma. She then said that she wants to do chest xray, and a CT scan with dye. I ask if the mole and the lymph node could be hand in hand and of course she just said lets wait for the results. Which she said should be back by end of this week. My biopsies usually take 10 days. So that concerned me, I know the quicker the results the worse the news usually is. Im not really sure what I am asking of you all.. Maybe any experiences similar to this? I am a nervous wreck and doing my best to be strong and positive for my daughter. But I know the beast of Melanoma, and waiting just, well it just sucks!
Thank you!
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- April 5, 2016 at 4:03 am
I don't have a whole lot of advice but I wanted to say you've come to a very supportive and informative place. We all know how awful the anxiety of waiting for results of the biopsy is. Just know that these days a diagnosis of melanoma is much different than it used to be. The new treatment options and research are amazing and much more advanced than ever before. The result length of biopsies doesn't indicate whether it will be good or bad. My initial biopsy result took 2 weeks before I found out, so it just depends on the lab. I really hope she doesn't have to deal with melanoma, but if she does, there is a ton of hope even after a melanoma diagnosis.
Best wishes,
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- April 5, 2016 at 4:03 am
I don't have a whole lot of advice but I wanted to say you've come to a very supportive and informative place. We all know how awful the anxiety of waiting for results of the biopsy is. Just know that these days a diagnosis of melanoma is much different than it used to be. The new treatment options and research are amazing and much more advanced than ever before. The result length of biopsies doesn't indicate whether it will be good or bad. My initial biopsy result took 2 weeks before I found out, so it just depends on the lab. I really hope she doesn't have to deal with melanoma, but if she does, there is a ton of hope even after a melanoma diagnosis.
Best wishes,
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- April 5, 2016 at 4:03 am
I don't have a whole lot of advice but I wanted to say you've come to a very supportive and informative place. We all know how awful the anxiety of waiting for results of the biopsy is. Just know that these days a diagnosis of melanoma is much different than it used to be. The new treatment options and research are amazing and much more advanced than ever before. The result length of biopsies doesn't indicate whether it will be good or bad. My initial biopsy result took 2 weeks before I found out, so it just depends on the lab. I really hope she doesn't have to deal with melanoma, but if she does, there is a ton of hope even after a melanoma diagnosis.
Best wishes,
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- April 5, 2016 at 4:52 am
I won't tell you my story. But I will say that the last 19 months has taught me to control my thoughts. I am the mother of an 18 yr old son stage 4. I control my thoughts very carefully. We as mothers set a tone. They know us very well and they trust us. These kids need us to be strong and positive. We cannot be run by fear or they will be too. I have my breakdowns and of course I am afraid. I just refuse to let it own me or rob me of any happiness we are given! You can do this. No matter what it is. Good or bad. It's yours to do and you will! Now enjoy today! Today you are both alive and well and that is awesome!! Keep us up on how you are. This is a very valuable place should you need it!
prayers always for a cancer free life!
kerri–momofjake
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- April 5, 2016 at 4:52 am
I won't tell you my story. But I will say that the last 19 months has taught me to control my thoughts. I am the mother of an 18 yr old son stage 4. I control my thoughts very carefully. We as mothers set a tone. They know us very well and they trust us. These kids need us to be strong and positive. We cannot be run by fear or they will be too. I have my breakdowns and of course I am afraid. I just refuse to let it own me or rob me of any happiness we are given! You can do this. No matter what it is. Good or bad. It's yours to do and you will! Now enjoy today! Today you are both alive and well and that is awesome!! Keep us up on how you are. This is a very valuable place should you need it!
prayers always for a cancer free life!
kerri–momofjake
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- April 5, 2016 at 4:52 am
I won't tell you my story. But I will say that the last 19 months has taught me to control my thoughts. I am the mother of an 18 yr old son stage 4. I control my thoughts very carefully. We as mothers set a tone. They know us very well and they trust us. These kids need us to be strong and positive. We cannot be run by fear or they will be too. I have my breakdowns and of course I am afraid. I just refuse to let it own me or rob me of any happiness we are given! You can do this. No matter what it is. Good or bad. It's yours to do and you will! Now enjoy today! Today you are both alive and well and that is awesome!! Keep us up on how you are. This is a very valuable place should you need it!
prayers always for a cancer free life!
kerri–momofjake
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