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    keepthefaith11
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      Now that I know that we have melanoma in the family I am becoming paranoid. I keep looking at the kids thinking if any of the spots I see is anything that could potentially turn into something bad. My kids are six and eight and do not have very many spots. How do you with children deal with this? Should I have them checked by a dermatologist? Nothing looks out of the ordinary, my older one has a mole on his buttock, it has always been there. Of course I have read that when children grow there moles can grow a bit as well, so that makes it even more confusing. When looking at the pictures of melanoma it makes no sense to me. Some of them are so obviously out of the ordinary looking, but some dont look so strange to me. How in the world do you know?

      Also, I am looking at myself. Wondering if anything I see could be something bad. I am definitely going in for a checkup ASAP.

      Annie

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        Janner
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          You can always take pictures yourself for monitoring.  As far as growth, you are looking for ASYMMETRICAL GROWTH.  Moles that grow symmetrically are fine in kids.  You are looking for the mole that grows abnormally and/or irregularly.  It doesn't hurt to have a derm look at your kids on occasion – it will get them in the habit for the future.  But I don't think you want to make a big deal out of it either.  You don't want to scare them or make it a bad experience.  Maybe if you are watching and their GP does a skin exam? 

          Just for perspective, almost every young child that I've ever seen diagnosed on this site is from a family that has NO family history.  Having said that, if you do have a strong family history, seeing a diagnosis at an early age is more common if a genetic defect is involved.  But even then, I think you are looking at older than your kids are now – late teens and twenties.  I have a genetic defect and was diagnosed at 29.

          Janner
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            You can always take pictures yourself for monitoring.  As far as growth, you are looking for ASYMMETRICAL GROWTH.  Moles that grow symmetrically are fine in kids.  You are looking for the mole that grows abnormally and/or irregularly.  It doesn't hurt to have a derm look at your kids on occasion – it will get them in the habit for the future.  But I don't think you want to make a big deal out of it either.  You don't want to scare them or make it a bad experience.  Maybe if you are watching and their GP does a skin exam? 

            Just for perspective, almost every young child that I've ever seen diagnosed on this site is from a family that has NO family history.  Having said that, if you do have a strong family history, seeing a diagnosis at an early age is more common if a genetic defect is involved.  But even then, I think you are looking at older than your kids are now – late teens and twenties.  I have a genetic defect and was diagnosed at 29.

            Janner
            Participant

              You can always take pictures yourself for monitoring.  As far as growth, you are looking for ASYMMETRICAL GROWTH.  Moles that grow symmetrically are fine in kids.  You are looking for the mole that grows abnormally and/or irregularly.  It doesn't hurt to have a derm look at your kids on occasion – it will get them in the habit for the future.  But I don't think you want to make a big deal out of it either.  You don't want to scare them or make it a bad experience.  Maybe if you are watching and their GP does a skin exam? 

              Just for perspective, almost every young child that I've ever seen diagnosed on this site is from a family that has NO family history.  Having said that, if you do have a strong family history, seeing a diagnosis at an early age is more common if a genetic defect is involved.  But even then, I think you are looking at older than your kids are now – late teens and twenties.  I have a genetic defect and was diagnosed at 29.

              ldub
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                Hi Annie – I talked about this  with our pediatrician and my dermatologist at the skin cancer clinic after my diagnosis, as I was also paranoid about my kids.  FYI – I do not have a family history – but both recommended that I just keep an eye on their skin and any changes, as Janner mentioned.  They did not think they needed a dermatologic examination at their young ages (10 and under), but if anything came up obviously to bring them in for an exam.  They both really stressed having the kids wear sun-protective clothing, and sunscreen for the rest of their uncovered skin – for sun protection obviously, but also to set up good habits for when they are older.  Of course, my kids are no different than anyone else's – getting them to stay in one place to apply sunscreen is like torture for all of us.  So they recommended something fun – like the sunscreen foam, for them to put on themselves (with follow up from me).  Wish my parents had been this careful with my skin when I was little!

                ldub
                Participant

                  Hi Annie – I talked about this  with our pediatrician and my dermatologist at the skin cancer clinic after my diagnosis, as I was also paranoid about my kids.  FYI – I do not have a family history – but both recommended that I just keep an eye on their skin and any changes, as Janner mentioned.  They did not think they needed a dermatologic examination at their young ages (10 and under), but if anything came up obviously to bring them in for an exam.  They both really stressed having the kids wear sun-protective clothing, and sunscreen for the rest of their uncovered skin – for sun protection obviously, but also to set up good habits for when they are older.  Of course, my kids are no different than anyone else's – getting them to stay in one place to apply sunscreen is like torture for all of us.  So they recommended something fun – like the sunscreen foam, for them to put on themselves (with follow up from me).  Wish my parents had been this careful with my skin when I was little!

                  ldub
                  Participant

                    Hi Annie – I talked about this  with our pediatrician and my dermatologist at the skin cancer clinic after my diagnosis, as I was also paranoid about my kids.  FYI – I do not have a family history – but both recommended that I just keep an eye on their skin and any changes, as Janner mentioned.  They did not think they needed a dermatologic examination at their young ages (10 and under), but if anything came up obviously to bring them in for an exam.  They both really stressed having the kids wear sun-protective clothing, and sunscreen for the rest of their uncovered skin – for sun protection obviously, but also to set up good habits for when they are older.  Of course, my kids are no different than anyone else's – getting them to stay in one place to apply sunscreen is like torture for all of us.  So they recommended something fun – like the sunscreen foam, for them to put on themselves (with follow up from me).  Wish my parents had been this careful with my skin when I was little!

                    stars
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                      Hey, it's perfectly natural to worry about the kids. I just keep an eye on mine – I did ask doc to take a look at one largish mole on my daughter and he did, all ok and the advice is just to keep an eye out for changes.  Our kids experience of hte sun is very different to my own – I believe my melanoma is fully sun related and I've had many blistering burns. My kids haven't – and hopefully won't even ever have one. So relax and enjoy them for what they are – healthy, beautiful kids.

                      stars
                      Participant

                        Hey, it's perfectly natural to worry about the kids. I just keep an eye on mine – I did ask doc to take a look at one largish mole on my daughter and he did, all ok and the advice is just to keep an eye out for changes.  Our kids experience of hte sun is very different to my own – I believe my melanoma is fully sun related and I've had many blistering burns. My kids haven't – and hopefully won't even ever have one. So relax and enjoy them for what they are – healthy, beautiful kids.

                        stars
                        Participant

                          Hey, it's perfectly natural to worry about the kids. I just keep an eye on mine – I did ask doc to take a look at one largish mole on my daughter and he did, all ok and the advice is just to keep an eye out for changes.  Our kids experience of hte sun is very different to my own – I believe my melanoma is fully sun related and I've had many blistering burns. My kids haven't – and hopefully won't even ever have one. So relax and enjoy them for what they are – healthy, beautiful kids.

                          keepthefaith11
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                            Thanks everyone. I know it is rare but that it can happen. I guess it is normal then for moles to grow as the child grows? As long as it grows normally. Seems the one on my older son’s buttock has gotten bigger for sure since he was a toddler, bit still perfectly round and normal looking.

                            Annie

                            keepthefaith11
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                              Thanks everyone. I know it is rare but that it can happen. I guess it is normal then for moles to grow as the child grows? As long as it grows normally. Seems the one on my older son’s buttock has gotten bigger for sure since he was a toddler, bit still perfectly round and normal looking.

                              Annie

                              keepthefaith11
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                                Thanks everyone. I know it is rare but that it can happen. I guess it is normal then for moles to grow as the child grows? As long as it grows normally. Seems the one on my older son’s buttock has gotten bigger for sure since he was a toddler, bit still perfectly round and normal looking.

                                Annie

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